The Language of Love

I have wanted to read a particular book for a long time. On Friday night, my friend was finally able to lend it to me. Thank you sui gwei and Dr. Chapman!!

In the book, I have found several quotes I should strive to live by/continue to live by:

1. The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.
   
   
2. Forgiveness is the way of love. The best thing we can do with the failures of the past is to let them be history. We can choose to live today free from the failures of yesterday. Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment, a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender.
   
   
3. Love makes requests, not demands. When one demands things from the other person, one person becomes the parent and the other becomes the child. Complying with a demand is an act of fear or guilt or some other emotion, but it is not an expression of love. A request builds the element of choice. Love is always a choice.
   
   
4. Quality conversation requires not only sympathetic listening but also self-revelation.
   
   
5. We are influenced by our past, our parents, and personality but are not controlled by it.

I am not yet finished with the book, but I am looking forward to applying these principles in life.